One of the jobs of a leader is to lead.  Being a leader does not necessarily mean that you will be everyone’s friend.  From time to time we all need to take a step back, evaluate where we are going and more specifically how we are going to get there.  That may mean that a leader goes out of their way to say or do things that raise the hair on the back of your neck, and it may also mean that from time to time we must calibrate what we are doing against what we are trying to do.

Terry Haines swearing in our newest Trustee, Dan Reno.

A nautical phrase many of you may have heard before is that you cannot change the direction of a ship if you are tied up to the pier.  One must set sail in order to change direction.  Years ago when NCOA was a good sized organization and we had an affiliation with Academy Life, no one paid much attention to how we were doing things and how we communicated.  No one cared much about fiscal responsibility because we had a fat cat covering all of the bills.  A few bad apples did things that they shouldn’t have and brought some bad publicity to this organization.  Using some of the liberal mentality of today, we remove any semblance of memory to those times.  The problem is some of our members were hurt.  Some of our members did not, or perhaps even today, do not have the capacity to forgive.  Removing the memory doesn’t solve the problem, but learning from it does.  NCOA needs the good members who were hurt back then to return as a contributing part of the organization.  We need to recapture the good things that NCOA had done.   History happened and removing it like many in our culture today would have us do removes teaching moments and is like “throwing out the baby with the bath water.”

If you are one that still bears the hurt from our past, I humbly apologize and ask you to give the current leadership team an opportunity to make things right with you.  NCOA has made some significant improvements over just the last five years.  Our Board of Directors is smaller and not just a conference board, but we meet via conference calls every month or so to deal with issues that impact you and your family.  The level of communication from the Board out to you has improved significantly where you can now hear what is going on monthly from myself, the President of the Association, our Executive Director and most recently from our Grand Knight.

Our new Executive Director has held almost every possible position within the chapter and board hierarchy before assuming the operational day to day running of the association.   He truly cares about each and every one of you because he has been where you are and has felt your pain.

While we are not as young as we used to be and our energy levels have declined, we still have one asset that is not to be underestimated.  Experience!  I and your current leadership love this association and have taken an oath to do everything in our power to “Make NCOA Great Again”.  We can’t do it by ourselves.  Equally important is that we realize that we can’t force how we used to do it down the throat of today’s generation or we truly will cease to exist.  If you are a parent or grandparent or maybe even a great grandparent, we must be patient and teach today’s generation the truly important accomplishments of our past and guide these young members through the maze of confusion that is today’s culture.  You would do it with your kids or grandkids, so why not our new young members?  Be flexible and patient for the alternative is death!

If you have any ideas or suggestions, either contact headquarters or contact me at chairman@ncoausa.org and I can assure you that your leadership will take note.

Strength in Unity & Leadership By Example,

MCPO (SCW) Terry M. Haines
Chairman, International Board of Directors

Here is a picture from Afghanistan showing the troops with the care packages that we are sending.

Thank those of you who responded with encouraging remarks to my last as well as all of my previous articles.  Even when we disagree on a point, I appreciate it when you take the time to share your thoughts.  Communication of different points of view ultimately leads to a better end product.

Summer is winding down and soon our youth will be heading back to school, so slow down around those school zones.  I just recently completed a cruise on something other that wasn’t haze grey!  I got a chance to meet up with veterans from Florida, Texas, Georgia, California, Washington and Missouri.  They were all actively involved in veteran groups and we had a very good discussion about service to others.

The Non Commissioned Officers Association (NCOA) has members of all ages and demographic groups.  This month I want to focus on a topic that either has directly or indirectly impacted many of our members.  September is National Suicide Prevention Month.  Our Grand Knight wrote a very good article that can be located on the NCOA website under leadership messages.  Please read it as there are a lot of startling facts and information that you should know in it.  I only want to focus on a couple of factors that are often overlooked by our culture.  The population percentage of those who have served or are currently serving in the military is approximately 6%.  The suicide rate of that 6% is just about doubled that of the remaining 94% of our population. 

Here is a picture from Afghanistan showing the troops with the care packages that we are sending.

22 veterans of all ages commit suicide every single day and the biggest reason it remains at such an alarming level is that it is a very difficult subject to think about.  It is hard to understand and requires courage to confront.  It is odd that there are traditions within our military about leaving no man behind and that is a phrase or tradition that should resonate with all of you.  With the issue of suicide, there isn’t an enemy shooting at you, but there really is.  The enemy is affecting a family member, friend, co-worker or someone that should be just as important to you as the person next to you on patrol in Iraq, Afghanistan, Vietnam or some other battlefield around the world.  The enemy isn’t shooting AK-47 rounds.  The enemy is the mind of the one contemplating suicide.  The thoughts plaguing this veteran are invisible to you but cause behaviors that are visible to those around them if you know what to look for and truly believe in not leaving someone behind on the battlefield.

This month I am asking all of you who read this article to spend some time researching what to look for and encouraging your chapter or post to take some kind of action that will raise public awareness in your area.  If you are a member at large, you can draft a letter to the editor for your local newspaper or get involved in a local suicide awareness walk.  Do something!  Last month the Air Force took a whole day off to focus on this issue.  Let’s keep the momentum going.  If we want the 94% of the population to care, we need to show them that our 6% cares first.

If you have any ideas or suggestions, either contact headquarters or contact me at chairman@ncoausa.org and I can assure you that your leadership will take note.

Strength in Unity & Leadership By Example,

MCPO (SCW) Terry M. Haines
Chairman, International Board of Directors

August for most of us is the traditional last month of summer.  Many are still traveling on vacation and kids are preparing for the inevitable return to school.  Baseball is still going strong and college and NFL football are beginning to stir in preparation for a new season.  Things are kind of routine if you are not still on active duty and deployed somewhere in the world, especially if you are in a war zone.  For them one day seems like the next.  It is just another patrol or perhaps another day at sea if in the Navy or the Coast Guard.  Life for those still serving isn’t the same as those of us who no longer serve.  We need to keep that in mind and do what we can to ease the strains on those still serving.

I just returned from our 2019 annual business meeting.  Our staff did a remarkable job pulling this year’s event off since the venue that we were booked at was sold and closed just a few short weeks prior to us getting together.  The crowd that showed up was treated to an exceptional event.  The senior enlisted panel was reported by many in attendance as the most informative and relevant one in years.  The business meeting, although compressed for time, produced some positive changes for our association that will allow us to grow and remain competitive with our competitors going forward.  The Vanguard awards banquet produced another crop of young heroes that we can all be proud of.  I hope to see all of you in San Antonio, Texas for the 2020 conference!

On my way home from the conference, I had a layover in Denver and as I was standing in line to grab a bite to eat I noticed a clean-cut young man right in front of me.  We spoke and he informed me that he was headed for Marine Corps boot camp. I treated him to dinner and discovered he was the youngest of three brothers and his older brothers were in the Navy.  He was excited about his future.  I gave him my card and asked that he stay in touch after he graduates from boot camp.  Many of us have fallen into the trap of hasty generalization assuming that all young people are not as good as we were based on casual observations.  There are plenty of quality good young men and women in this country who are ready to assume the watch.  It is up to us to mentor the youth coming behind us and encourage them.  That old saying “how do you eat an elephant? The answer is one bite at a time.”  This analogy can be applied to our young people. Mentor one young person at a time and you will have done something to make this country and that young person proud.

I challenge you to each take that one bite and mentor a young man or woman.  I challenge each of you to bring one new member into this great association.  I am encouraged by what I see and there are a lot of good things happening within the NCOA.  Send pictures and a brief report of what you are doing to headquarters.  There are a lot of you who are not attached to a chapter but are still doing things to make our organization and our country better.  Please share them.  That will help others realize that they are not alone.  There is a saying from another group that I belong to that fits NCOA.  “No man fights alone!”   We are just bad about sharing what we do so at times it feels like we are alone.  Together we will overcome fear, complacency and a feeling that nothing we do makes a difference.

If you have any ideas or suggestions, either contact headquarters or contact me at chairman@ncoausa.org and I can assure you that your leadership will take note.

Strength in Unity & Leadership By Example,

MCPO (SCW) Terry M. Haines
Chairman, International Board of Directors

July brings upon us the celebration of our Nation’s birth.  Many of us will be involved in patriotic parades either as participants or attendee.  There will be a massive amount of attention to fireworks, parades and patriotic music.

As men and women who served our country to support and defend the constitution, July 4^th has a special place in our hearts.  Most if not all of those who signed the constitution gave up everything throughout the remainder of their lives as a result of signing that sacred document.  We should spend some time and reflect on the true cost of the freedom we all take for granted.  We should share with our children and grandchildren what that cost really means.  Service in the military is not easy and it surely isn’t convenient.

To see so many in this country right now trying to tear down our constitution is disturbing.  Perhaps we are suffering through this disassembly of our constitution because we have gotten soft or just assumed that our schools would teach the truth about the formation of our country.  My friends and fellow patriots, it is time for us to stand for the very thing that we were willing to potentially give our lives for.  However, since we survived, we may feel that we have given enough.  My question to each of you right now is do you acknowledge that while not perfect, this country is the best option in the world?

This 4^th of July, were you proud of your service and what this country was formed around?  Do you feel that you have grown complacent about the reason the 4^th of July is so important?  To those who have never served in the military, the 4^th of July has evolved into a day off work with fireworks and parades.  The birthdate of our country used to represent thoughts about the sacrifice of our founding fathers.  Far too little is taught in our schools about the ideas of what freedom truly represents.  The core thoughts represented by the Declaration of Independence and our Constitution have faded with time.  I fear that the 4^th of July for many has become just another day off of work and a reason to blow up fireworks.

I and a bunch of honored veterans just returned from an Honor Flight where our first visit was to the National Archives where we visited and got to see the actual Declaration of Independence and the Constitution.  The next day we visited Arlington National Cemetery to see the Changing of the Guard at the Tomb of the Unknown Soldier.  Driving through hundreds of acres of graves of lost Soldiers, Sailors, Marines, Air Force, Coast Guard as well as historical leaders of our country, places an appropriate reference on the cost of freedom that came about as a result of the efforts of our founding fathers.

When is the last time that you read the Declaration of Independence and/or the Constitution?  As veterans who have served and sacrificed to defend this nation, I pray that you place more importance on the 4^th of July than just another holiday with fireworks.  It represents the core values that every noncommissioned officer or petty officer swore to uphold when they/you put on that uniform.  Teach that to your children and maybe we can begin to turn things around in this country!

If you have any ideas or suggestions, either contact headquarters or contact me at chairman@ncoausa.org and I can assure you that your leadership will take note.

Strength in Unity & Leadership By Example,

MCPO (SCW) Terry M. Haines
Chairman, International Board of Directors